Why Meditate? Got a Grudge?

I had a grudge going this week. Full-out, personal, justified, thorny, supported by anyone to whom i presented my case, consuming, blood-pressure-raising, unattractive yet perversely seductive, impossible to let go, and exhausting.

That’s one truth.

Here’s another. I know that a week from now i’ll feel differently. In fact, if i don’t feel differently a week from now, if i haven’t moved past this, i’ll have no interest in living with myself.

That’s a funny thing about grudges. You’re okay with them in the moment. They feel good in some awful sliver-in-your-finger way, but jesus murphy, you don’t want to identify yourself as a grudge holder, you don’t want to be one of those semi-permanent bitter folk. (I picture rollers in stringy hair, gnarly knuckes, a wrinkled face under fluorescent factory lights, and cigarette smoke curling up from a thin, bitter mouth. Evil Bette Davis eyes. This could be me, i know it could.)

This is why i meditate today. In order to remind myself that who i am is deeper than a grudge, deeper than who’s to blame, deeper than the temptation to judge. Deeper than all the stuff I get right and all of the stuff I get wrong. Deeper than success and failure. Deeper than most of what goes on all day long.

Who i really am hums with a different crowd: with love, peace, good will, compassion, beauty everywhere i look, and peace.

When i don’t meditate, i fight my grudges.

When i do meditate, i remember who i am and wrap my grudges in love until they look like love inside and out.

Is that reason enough to meditate? I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Thanks for the conversation,

kristin

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Meeting Kundalini

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In meditation circles, Kundalini yoga has a big-girl-on-the-block reputation. Something about Kundalini yoga, at least in theory, lends itself to meditation, altered states of consciousness, and bliss.

Wikipedia says this: Practitioners
call Kundalini yoga,the yoga of awareness because
they claim it directly affects human consciousness, develops
intuition, increases self knowledge, and unleashes the unlimited
creative potential that exists within every human being.

Who doesn’t
want to unleash unlimited creative potential?

Armed with this
information and nothing more, I dropped into a Kundalini class this
week in Toronto.

I was nervous.
So was my brother-in-law Clay.

We’re both Ashtanga fans, and we
didn’t know what to expect. (I’m nervous with every new class.
In fact, I’m nervous at my own studio whenever I’ve been away for
a bit. If you have any tips on how to get over this, I’m all
ears.)

Adding to my
nervousness was the fact that I hadn’t planned on doing a class, so
I was dressed in my clown-stripe pajamas, heavy clogs, and the
t-shirt I’d slept in. I looked as though I’d just made a
hasty escape from an institution of some kind, an escape so hasty there had been no time to find street clothes let alone yoga wear.

We
hyperventilated our way toward the studio like a pair of shifty-eyed bank
robbers. It’s a miracle they let us in.

Lesley, a vision
of radiant health, dressed in white (is this a Kundalini colour? I don’t know), welcomed us as though bank robbers were the mainstay of
her practice.

We began with
some lovely chanting, and headed straight into the breath of fire. Do you know the
breath of fire? It’s a Kundalini thing. Rapid, forceful
exhalations followed by automatic inhalations. Earlier this year I tried it on my
own, limiting myself to a minute at a time. More than this, my sources say,
and you might make yourself dizzy. I’m able to coordinate
my breath and abdomen for about 20 seconds at a time. After
that, everything goes off the rails into erratic breath and no discernible relationship between breath and body. A steam engine gone berserk.

In Lesley’s
class, we never really stopped the breath of fire. She continued it through
almost every pose, including a series of core-strengthening moves that taught me I have no core to speak of.

Enough. If
you’re a Kundalini fan, I don’t mean to offend with my ignorance.
If you don’t know Kundalini any more than I do, I’ll say this:

I’m completely
intrigued. It wasn’t familiar. It wasn’t particularly
comfortable. But there was a sense that my energy might be mobilized
in a new way with this breath and these asanas. I sensed a connection
between body and bliss that felt promising.

This morning I ordered a
few Kundalini DVDs so that I can give it a whirl in my basement.

Are you a
Kundalini fan? Can you enlighten us? What do you love about it?

Thanks to Lesley
at Bliss Yoga Studio in Toronto. Thanks to Clay for getting me there.
Thanks to yoga for being 1,000 different things, and thanks to you
for the conversation,

kristin

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The Full Meal Deal

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We’re a cranky household this week.
Neither one of us has done our morning practice for four days. They
have been four long, long days.

My lovely man’s been working and,
well, I don’t know what else. I’ve been doing late nights in the
theatre and feel as though my circadian rhythms, which include waking
at 3:30 or 4am, will never return to normal.

Pat walks by me two or three times a
day with his hand on his low back, moaning, “yoga, yoga, yoga.”

Come to think of it, my low back’s a
bit wonky too, despite the fact that my pre-show warm up every
evening is basically a shortened yoga practice. What gives?

What gives is that I prefer the full
meal deal. I love the dark, the early hour, the full practice, the
savasana, and my meditation. My low back and every other part of me
wants the stretch, the warm strength moves, the standing balances,
the back bends, the spinal twists, not to mention the focus, the
acceptance of what is, the self-love, and the love for the day. The
full morning gift to myself.

Can you identify?

So don’t call, don’t write.
Tonight I’m going to bed early, and I’m getting up at four.

I’ll be a much happier woman the next
time we chat.

Thanks to yoga for being such a
demanding friend. Thanks to you for the conversation,

kristin

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Yoga and Money

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First of all, thanks very much for the
approximately 26 billion pieces of mail you sent after I posted a
short blog about the cost of yoga classes. It may take me a while to
get back to each of you on that one.

It seems it’s a contentious subject.

The mail indicates we’re far more
conflicted about money than we are about yoga. No one wrote saying, “I
have piles of money but I can’t stand yoga.” It was all about how
much we love class and would like to go more often. How lovely is
that?

Your mail made me wonder something. We
know that yoga spills into every little bit of life: into
relationships, food, career, parenting, political choices, etc.

Has yoga affected your relationship to
money?

I suppose yoga has strengthened my
impression that money is energy, and that the healthy flow of money
into and out of my life has to do with the health (or not) of my own
energy, of my confidence, my resistance, my fear, my flexibility and
strength.

That’s one new yogini’s thought.
What’s yours?

Thanks to yoga for showing up
everywhere. Thanks to you, always, for the wonderful conversation,

kristin

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The Money Thing

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Can we talk about the money thing? Last
week, someone wrote saying it was a terrible shame that yoga costs so
much money and that the superstar teachers charge huge sums for
their classes. Yoga should be free, he suggested.

I don’t get it. Maybe I’m missing
one of the eight branches or one of the gazillion sub-branches
(twigs?) of yoga theory. Maybe you know something I don’t.

Here are my two cents:

  1. Yoga can be free. With a computer, TV,
    or even a library card, we can do all the yoga we want at home at no
    cost. How lucky are we?

  2. Yoga teachers, like the rest of
    us, like to eat and sleep on beds and take care of their children.
    Don’t they need to be paid in order to do that?

  3. Beyond the necessities idea, isn’t
    it lovely to imagine yoga teachers earning wonderful, flowing
    streams of money teaching us something wonderful? What a perfect way
    to live your life!

  4. Why would superstar teachers not
    charge super fees? That way, those who love to hang out and learn
    from superstars can, and those who don’t value the same thing can
    go to regularly priced classes or to the computer, where I’ll bet they
    can watch superstars teach for nada.

Perhaps something else is going on. I
wonder whether those of us who feel abundant and confident with money
bring that confidence to this subject, and whether those of us who carry
feelings of scarcity, resentment, and powerlessness toward money
bring our feelings to this discussion. Just a guess. I’d love to
hear your feelings.

Thanks to yoga for shining its
persistent light into all kinds of nooks and crannies, and thanks to
you for the conversation,

kristin

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Off The Mat Yoga

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Off-the-mat yoga became real to me this
week. I don’t mean lovely things are happening that might indirectly be connected to my yoga and meditation practices. I mean that I am witnessing significant, substantial changes in life that feel directly connected to my morning practice.

We’re in the middle of a theatre production involving late
nights, mornings that are less than perky, half-hearted physical
practice, and groggy meditations.

Nonetheless, I am amazed at how personal
practice has shaped who I am off the mat and in the theatre.

Here are the most noticeable changes:

  1. Calmness in the face of disaster. We have an actor-cat, Otis, who decided this week that he
    is a free agent. Two nights ago he slipped from his harness,
    mid-scene, and escaped an entire backstage crew while his poor scene
    partner ad libbed on stage in his absence (“I have a cat here
    somewhere. I do!”). I sat backstage and breathed deeply, knowing everything would be all right. We considered the whole thing a one-off until
    Otis escaped again last night. A year ago I would have sworn a blue
    streak and stopped breathing altogether. A year ago I would have
    fantasized about stringing Otis up by his wayward paws. This calmness is very strange.

  2. My preparation for stage (think of
    yours for public presentations, interviews, weddings, and funerals)
    used be a kind of mental Olympic event that involved winding up, going over and over lines, recreating elaborate emotional
    states, and trying unsuccessfully to calm my nervousness. The result
    was that I wasn’t really present by the time I walked on stage.

    All I do now is
    relax into my body, warm my voice, breathe fully, and trust. The resulting
    focused calm as I walk on stage is a miracle.

  1. Every night is a first. Forget
    the cat. Forget the people who love our work, the people who
    don’t, and the insecurities that rear their pathetic heads. Forget the people in the front row who chatted loudly all
    the way through last night’s performance (“Oh, look at her
    dress! I had a dress like that once. Maybe that is my dress!”).
    Let the hostages go. There is no point in letting yesterday hijack
    today’s energy.

    I knew this one in my head before. Now
    my body knows it.

Breathe when things get challenging,
relax and trust, and now is all there is. Off-the-mat yoga. It’s
working. Yoga is having its way with me. It’s like something blooming in unexpected places. And holy moly, it feels good.

What have you seen off the mat?

Thanks to yoga for changing everything.
Thanks to you for the conversation,

kristin

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Kristin Shepherd is a chiropractor, actor, and speaker (About All
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Mantras on the Mat

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“This too shall pass.” Sounds
biblical. Wikipedia says no, that it first showed up in the writings
of the Persian Sufi poets. This makes me whirling-dervish happy,
being a huge fan of Hafiz and Rumi.

Other sources say it’s credited to anyone from
Abraham Lincoln to King Solomon. I’m surprised Nelson Mandela
isn’t on the list.

In Canada this week, we voted in a
majority government that, well, the majority didn’t ask for. (Our
voting system is a long story.) The winner in my area won’t be
certain until a recount takes place this week. There was a 14-vote
difference between first and second place.

And, oh, the commentary is loud,
contentious, and personal!

For minutes, I swing with the intense
feeling of it. Outrage! Panic! Discouragement. Hopelessness.
Meanwhile, others are feeling joy, elation, power, new strength.

Then I begin my practice. By the time I reach my third Sun Salutation, all I hear in my head is, “This too shall pass.”

I learn this every day on my mat. My
body’s struggles will pass. My body’s thrills will pass. Same
goes for the struggles and thrills of my relationships, my work, my
community, and my country.

“This too shall pass” is my mantra
on the mat this week.

Do you have one?

Thanks to yoga for perspective and for
being there even when the rest of life feels a bit crazy.

Thanks to you, always, for the
conversation,

kristin

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Gratitude Admist Chaos

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We’ve just finished move-in weekend
for the play I’m directing. Move in is horrendous. It involves
long, long days of actors waiting hours longer than I’d predicted
while lighting design people solve problems I don’t understand and
can’t begin to explain to cast and crew who would rather stick
forks in their eyes than have another half-hour delay. It involves
brief, sometimes angry directives to the impatient and the tardy.
(“Don’t bully me,” snapped an 80-year-old actor after I’d
suggested she get her rear end out of bed and over to the theatre
where we were waiting for her.) It involves regretting my angry
directives and throwing myself back into the day over and over with
patience and enthusiasm. It involves reworking facial scars that
don’t look right under stage lights, music and light cues to
program and reprogram, a labor scene in which half the audience can
see an actor’s crotch, and on and on. It involves eating more
sweet, puffy muffins in one day than is good for any human being.

It’s probably no different that what
many of you do at work every day.

Here’s what I’m grateful for: Hours
before this bedlam began, I was on my living room floor in
Savasana, thinking, “Thank you, thank you, for everything that happens
today.” No matter how chaotic the day becomes, I will be back on my
living room floor tomorrow morning, saying, “Thank you, thank you, for
all of this.”

It’s because of this, I think, that I
never feel lost in the chaos. The nuttiness feels temporary,
superficial, and less jarring than it used to. It is something I’m
doing, not something I am.

Has yoga given you this?

Thanks to yoga for telling me who I am
every day. Thanks to the beautiful cast and crew I have the honor to
work with, and thanks to you for the conversation,

kristin

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Six Things I Know

YJ downward dogs.jpgThere are six things I know about myself this morning after yoga practice:

1. I’m OK skipping one day of
practice. My body is happiest when I don’t skip two days. It is
perhaps pathetic to begin this list by discussing the practice I
don’t do.

2. I breathe more easily after
practice. An hour later, my chest and back are still loose and
happy.

3. Revolved Side Angle Pose is a
bugger. It may be another year before I feel what I imagine we are
supposed to feel in that one. I think I said the same thing last
year.

4. Meditation is heaven. Many of you
write saying meditation is not a heavenly part of your practice.
You’re probably all having too good a time with Revolved Side Angle Pose to sink into meditation.

5. My lovely man and I wonder over
and over about how our lives and bodies would be completely
different if we had not rediscovered yoga. We have that chat almost
every time I watch him put a pair of pants on in the morning. He
used to look like an aging praying mantis getting dressed: rigid,
twiggy, in danger of snapping. Now he looks like a twelve-year-old
boy.

6. It is true that some part of me
looks forward to superyogi changes in my strength, flexibility, fat
content, and hair. (Many of the superstar yoginis have long,
absurdly luxurious hair. Does it not get in the way?) It is also
true that most days I am closer than ever to being content right
where I am. This observation is more shocking than it would be to
wake up with flexible shoulders, skinny legs, and long, glossy
ringlets.

That’s it for this morning. It
might be a completely different list tomorrow.

What do you know after practice?

Thanks to yoga for giving us good
things every day, and for never being over. Thanks to you for the
conversation,

kristin

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High-Tech Peace

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The iPhone might be the best thing that
has happened to my meditation practice over the last month.

For the most part, we live in a low-tech
house. The TV gets plugged in when we want to watch a movie. We don’t have cable and don’t get any channels. We don’t keep the radio on or listen to music. Why? Because the world
outside the house is loud and I love quiet.

What we do have is an absurd number of
computers. My lovely man has one laptop. I have three laptops (for
different kinds of work), one desktop, and the iPhone. This is as
ridiculous as it sounds, and I feel conflicted about it most days.

Not now.

I’ve just discovered guided
meditation apps on the iPhone.

For years, on and off, I’ve been a
Luddite meditator: sitting completely unplugged for varying lengths
of time, focusing on my breath. It’s been good.

About a month ago I felt the desire for
a meditation camp. I do these periodically. A retreat plunks the
meditation in your lap, gently or not so gently removing your
distractions for a few days.

This time there is no room on the
calendar for camp. I’m acting and directing for the next month,
meaning that both days and nights are booked.

Instead, I plug in to my phone every
morning for guided meditations that take me to camp for an hour or
so. Oh, happiness! Soft voices lead me by the hand and remind me over
and over to let go, with softer music in the background, or nature
sounds or silence if I prefer. Focused attention just got a lot
easier.

Will I go back to tech-less meditating?
Absolutely. Do I love it being easy right now? Absolutely.

Whatever tames the squirrelly mind and
brings me closer to capital-L-love has my gratitude today.

Have you tried guided meditations? Do
you love them or do they defeat the purpose for you?

Thanks to yoga for all its branches,
including meditation. Thanks for technology at the moment. And
thanks to you for the conversation,

kristin

Dr.
Kristin Shepherd is a chiropractor, actor, and speaker (About All
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